Experience of women who have left a domestic abusive relationship

Typically, the victims of domestic violence are usually women with the perpetrator being male although there are cases of males also being victims but males are less likely to admit or report incidents of abuse because of embarrassment, fear or ridicule and lack of support services(BARBER, C. F. Types of abuse are Physical, Sexual, Financial and coercive behaviour, which was not thought to be a criminal offence until it came into force in 2015 Serious Crime Act (2015). According to The Office of National Statistic (2017), an alarming 1. billion adults had experienced domestic violence within 2017 with 1. Previous literature has revealed that such services are being used with some favoured more than others, and some not used at all (Herman, J.  In a study known as the Chicago Women’s Health risk study which was based on the help-seeking choices of abused women, interviews were conducted on 491 women who were screened as abused.

Results revealed that 82% of the abused women did not contact an agency counsellor making these sources the least used. Medical care was the next least used source with 74% women not seeking medical care following an incident. Sixty-two percent of the women did not call the police, and finally 29% of the women did not talk to someone else such as family and close friends. Again, according to the statistics from UK research agency, one in four young people report to have experienced domestic abuse where third of those recorded to assaults with very sphere injuries (Herman, J. L.   This is so serious in our societies. On average, it is reported that police receive an emergency call concerning domestic abuse after every 30 seconds in their stations. Therefore, police respond to these cases so poorly according to investigations.

The challenge mostly is the tools and the right information need to tackle a domestic violence crime. Many victims suffer in silence and it’s so difficult to help them. The police may be there but unless they open up, it becomes so difficult to handle these cases. Police need to have good intelligent team to gather information. This is what is lacking in most police units in UK. Nevertheless, if a person you know is at risk, you have that mandate to share that information with police and save that life. You can discuss the concerns with police to give relevant information to rescue that person. The law discloses specific information about an individual with the person making the application with police or a third person for the purposes of protecting a potential victim from domestic violence: • Anyone can make an application about an individual who is in an intimate relationship with another person and where there is a concern that the individual may harm the other person • Any concerned third party, such as a parent, neighbour or friend can make an application not just the potential victim; however • A third party making an application would not necessarily receive the information about the individual concerned.

It may be more appropriate for someone else to receive the information such as the victim or another person who is best placed to protect the potential victim Problem statement-the gap The history of domestic abuse is really concerning. The services rendered to domestic abuse victims has never been satisfying though a gradient improvement has been witnessed. Another problem is that, the funding of the domestic abuse services is so poor. Government been so slowly releasing funds to support these services. Most of the domestic violence victims usually needs special attention and more follow-up after the rescue from the harassment since they may have leaved in such relationship for long (Pinn & Chunko, (2007). Therefore, as people get educated more about domestic abuse, the limitations of police to help victims need to be addressed.

Women need to be helped to access legal support through police. The institute provides estimates of incidences of these brutal occasions and outlines that they occur at different levels. According to them, the reasons that drive men to act violently to women operate at individual, community and societal levels, and relational factors ((Mullender, A.  Professor Naila Kabeer from the institution explores the relevance of the concept of vulnerability to a sustainability of human development. It’s unfortunate that women get mistreated until they become broken. Vulnerability is seen as conventionally conceived as a dynamic, multidimensional concept that causes a lot of stress and shocks to women lives. Studies linked to powerless They say silence is golden as many of us may have been told this when they were youing. But may fail to show fruits for you in your life later as you struggle with life.

According an international body named, The Guardian, Silence equals to death since they describe it as the ocean for unsaid which may harm somebodies heart. Women are sometimes considered powerless and speechless to some situations against their partners and that’s why they face some mistreat. Silence happens as a result of many reasons(Pinn & Chunko, (2007). The second extract indicates that romona did indeed go on to have a child and possibly disclosed to him where she lived in a bid that they could perhaps attempt to be a family. Jill Lines30-31 “I laughed at him sarcastically uno he was questioning me and I thought it was ridiculous and I laughed and I got hit for it. ” Judging from this extract, it seems that Jill believes that her laughing sarcastically is what caused her abuser to hit her.

She feels the need to explain why she had laughed and how she felt almost as in a bid to justify his actions. Rose lines 23-25, “I remember not even Realising that I was going through domestic violence erm you know i just looked at is as oh we just had a fight, oh its nothing I pushed him first, I shouldn’t of answered him in that tone and uno” Rose explains that she did not realise that she was even in an abusive relationship and it appears as if she believes that her behaviour was to blame for the abuse she received. We should admit where we go wrong and pick from there then move on. If the world you create around you does not make life interesting, then you should not blame yourself for that.

May be it was not your fault. You may find yourself taking on fault and responsibility that is not yours. Michael argues that once we fail to understand the balance of responsibility in any given situation then is when it leads us into a trap of misassigning that wrong responsibility to ourselves and then develop self-blame. Lucy lines 33-36 “I chose to go to school and I signed up for like two classes and I started to go to school and at school I started to get more confidence and I started to see there was options that I could get some schooling and I could maybe support my family and erm I just started to feel better about myself” Lucy made the decision to go back to school where she found confidence and discovered that there was more to life than the life she was living at home.

She realised that she could get educated and support her family by herself if she wanted to, she stared to believe in herself Lorna 201-206 “I remember I decided to tell the guy I was with I just didn’t want it anymore I was done I was done and I was and you know I got the strength and I left him I left him and I never thought I would but I left him” Rose 136-137 “I went to my parents’ house, where I felt safe, and loved, and secure and I told them I was done forever, and I promised id never ever go back, and they believed me. Jill 178-180 “I know by telling the truth even if it helps him even if it doesn’t I know that im not gonna self destruct by carrying this secret inside of me anymore uno it will help me heal” Rose says she went to her parents’ house after a long experience of abuse by her partner.

She feels comfortable and save in the hands of her parents. I am happy to hear from Rose, Lonna and Lucy that they get themselves out of this tough situation. The study revealed that a lot of diverse views in response to victims journey to safety. The study outlined the initial situations of the relationship that is how everything started, then the key events and experiences of the situation and then finally how the victim ended up being liberating herself. This study established mix reactions of women who has experienced domestic violence. It’s very concerning from this study that many women who even are very acting in churches are victims of domestic violence and end up going to churches to get some both emotional and spiritual nourishment. It’s upon spiritual leaders to help them navigate out of these situations.

It’s very disappointing to be at this level of confusion. But for other victims like Lucy were very intelligent to take action and move on to start classes where she realized that there was life after being abused. This what the society should look for. Women who are courageous and able to carry on life despite the challenges they face in life. These women which needs to be brought forward to advice their fellow victims in forums since they have better words of encouragements. D. These are just some of the key issues which signal us about the loopholes in this social issue. Again no clear identification as to why these women left these relationship and this is why the trauma comes in and most of them find blaming themselves for that matter.

This leads to a reason why there is no follow up also to establish those who took courage and moved on, how they are carrying on with their lives. The government needs to establish psychological helpers to help those ladies. Many keep abusing women for poor decision and leaving with fear without establishing exactly what could be the cause of the thing. We need to have a better education about what it means to be in an abusive relationship. Many women consider domestic abuse to be a case where a man is hitting a woman. Specialist says that there are many ways that a woman can be abused yet many women do not understand them. Another problem is that, the funding of the domestic abuse services is so poor. But in our society there are a lot of psychological intimidations which leads to even fatal incidences that needs to be addressed by police.

All these issues are identified in this research and needs to be addressed if there has to be good management of women under domestic abuse. References Herman, J. L.  Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence--from domestic abuse to political terror. The Duluth domestic abuse intervention project.  Hamline L. Rev. O’Leary, K. D. Dobash, R. P.  Women, violence and social change. Routledge. Browne, K. M.  Battered women and the law (p. New York: Foundation Press.